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I am a proud ‘significant parent’ of two amazing children – daughter and son. I work as an Executive PA and also line manage 4 Medical Secretaries. I have a very busy work schedule, which sometimes sees me working more than 37.5 hours a week. I try to balance work life, family life as well as writing articles to support my Ministry, Significant Mothers ‘N’ Fathers (a Ministry about single parenthood, which was birthed in the summer of 2021), which can sometimes prove difficult. My major distraction is work, as I tend to log on to work after getting home to complete what I couldn’t finish in the office. It got to a point one day when my daughter mentioned that she and her brother never see my “brake light” when I get home from work. Although I was very defensive when she made this statement, what she said was the absolute truth! That was the day I decided to separate work life from home life.
Instilling the fear of God in my children has always been paramount in my family life, especially in my son who is still a teenager, as well as building a strong connection with them so that they feel free to tell me whatever they need to.
This year has taught me so much about my daughter - her outlook on life, relationship, work, and friends around her, as well as seeking my advice/input on her co-founded business venture (Hair Advisor UK). I have also come to experience God in a mighty way, which blows my mind every time I think of how far God has brought me, especially in giving me the grace to single-handedly bring up my two special gifts from God. What looked like a delay in my plans was actually God ‘s all perfect Will and Him positioning me to be a blessing to others for His glory.
One of the bonding sessions we have together as a family (which I always look forward to) is on Sundays when we sit down to discuss any personal issues after our online church service. Times like these are very precious to me. I remember one of these Sundays, where I broke down about so many things bothering me and I found my children advising me. Hearing them speak with so much wisdom even broke me more.
Another bonding time I look forward to is when I take my son to football games/training. We talk about his academics (he will be writing his GCSEs next year by God’s special grace), what he wants to do, how he and his friends are very competitive in some subjects in class (something his teachers have always attested to during our virtual parents evening), and his love, passion and commitment to football. His dream is to play for Arsenal and I know God sees and hears him.
In conclusion, my advice to parents is to always make quality time for your children no matter how busy your work schedule is, ask them how they are doing, and not only ask, but listen to them as well. Your quality time with your children should be enjoyed, not endured. I would also emphasise that as parents, we should learn to celebrate our children’s individuality and avoid favouritism, as each child is unique and it is imperative we celebrate their uniqueness.
To God be the glory.